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How can you strengthen will power? What can you do to improve the brain? Is lack of willpower a character flaw? Can will power be conserved? Where can I learn more? What can I do right now to improve my willpower tomorrow?
These and other questions are answered in this 27 minute video. Get out a pen and paper and take some notes – one one side write points Anne makes and on the other side write what you are going to do to implement what she reveals.
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Menopause is characterized by a loss of circulating Estrogen. The causes changes in the brains function, your vision, your nervous system areas that help you deal with stress and the mental and physical areas that allow you to want and to enjoy sexual activity. Maturity sometimes brings with it physical challenges like breast pain, joint pain, muscle stiffness, even our skin can tingle and hurt. Some of our senses may be hampered like taste and smell. And, it may have been “a while” since we last really thought about sex so the mental, emotional and physical connections may be a bit rusty. In this first video, I try to help you understand what might be going on and what you can do to physically be able to have a sexual relationship again. In two subsequent videos I will discuss vaginal health specifically and how to increase your sexual satisfaction. These last two videos must be requested by signing up for them below. After you sign up, you will receive a confirmatory email. I have to be sure it was you at the email entered that really asked for this information. After you click the link to confirm your choice you will receive the first video and a week later number 2. As I make more videos in this series you will automatically receive them.
Remember, I am not your doctor. I am a source of vetted information. You can discuss this with your health care professional and decide what you need to do for you personally. I am happy to be someone who can give you opinions about what the medical and scientific community in our country (USA) thinks about certain options. Enjoy video number one!
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This is about 5 minutes and includes the Tips you will find below.
http://bit.ly/AnxietyTips or just click on the words Anxiety Tips
Remember that Anxiety is a protective mechanism. For thousands of years you needed to be on your guard against predators, enemies and dangers of all kinds. Anxiety heightens awareness, provides us with extra short-term energy and prepares the body to deal with a physical emergency. Most of us do not need these skills but we react the same way to modern problems. Modern problems are not short lived and most are mental rather than physical. How can you control your response to these mental challenges? Below and in the video I try to give you tips on what to do yourself and when to get some help.
8 REFRESHING WAYS FOR COPING WITH ANXIETY DURING MENOPAUSE
- Learn a stress management technique through counseling or biofeedback to learn about your triggers for anxiety, and how to counter these triggers. Anxiety during menopause can be triggered by stressful situations and knowing how to lower your feeling of being stressed will lower chance of anxiety.
- Begin practicing yoga or meditation. This will help your focus and mental clarity to better problem solve and remain calm during stressful times.
- Consider other stress and anxiety lowering practices such as massage or even acupuncture. Touch can raise healthy, feel good hormones and as a result, lower stressful feelings that anxiety can cause.
- Begin an exercise program, or be consistent with your exercise program. This will lower stress hormones and as a result, lower your anxiety level.
- Decide to take up a hobby or activity you have always wanted to do. Concentrating on a task that is unrelated to your normal day’s activities can help you to feel refreshed.
- Learn deep breathing techniques to help with lowering stress. Deep breathing lowers heart rate and as a result, the feeling of anxiety.
- Drink plenty of water and consume a healthy diet so that your body can function at its’ best. Lessening sugar, caffeine, alcohol and nicotine will help to eliminate the highs and lows that come with these artificial stimulants and depressants. These highs and lows can often trigger anxiety.
- Talk to your medical provider about medication if your anxiety is overwhelming and preventing you from working effectively or enjoying your life.
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What is the difference between dieting and making a life style change?
In this video I discuss the idea that you have a different perspective when you decide to make lifestyle changes. When you are dieting, you are
- giving up control of what you are eating to a “program”
- looking for a temporary fix to a long term habit
- looking at external cues for your success or failure,such as number on a scale
- not taking responsibilities for your actions
- not learning about food or activities and how they can affect you
- treating a symptom not a cause
In making a life style change, you are deciding that you are in it for the long haul, such as forever. You are evaluating what works for you, through trial and error. You are deciding for YOU what works and does not work. You are getting in touch with your feelings and thoughts about changes you are making, and this can make these changes more effective and long lasting. To make effective life style changes, you should:
- plan, journal and evaluate your feelings and thoughts about goals
- focus on how the changes you are making are benefiting YOU
- don’t be hard on yourself- think about correcting mistakes and moving ahead instead of giving up because of mistakes
- start small and move slowly through changes, think baby steps to change
- enlist help of friends, family, co workers. Someone you trust to be your support
- make a plan for stressful times.
Lifestyle change is not sudden or magical, it comes through slow, deliberate and dedicated action. It is never to late to make a lifestyle change, because the changes you make can be as big or as small as you want them to be!
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Anne in her last post pointed out a statistic call number needed to treat. In a study she read, they calculated that the number of mammograms needed to be done to find a breast cancer in a single woman was 1000-1500. A Number Needed to Treat Value of more than 3 is usually of questionable value. Here we are not treating but searching for who to treat.
What this and other studies have shown is that population screening is a poor method for finding problems because at any time, only a few people will have the problem and the time and expense is so great to do the screening. Since budgets are finite, those in preventative medicine want to use the funds for activities that benefit more people for the same amount of dollars. That leaves women out in the cold. We don’t have a good way to find Breast Cancer and those that allocate dollars want to limit mammograms to women who are older and to do them less often. Patients themselves and those given the responsibility to care for those female patients don’t like this idea. Breast cancer at best is scary and disfiguring and at worst painfully fatal. The fear of this problem motivates people to take action.
Below are two videos where I attempt to explain NNT. It is tough, the average Doctor, PA or NP can’t calculate it or haven’t done it for most of the illnesses they treat. Lots of problems don’t have great studies done so that you can calculate the NNT for that problem. See what you think, listen – 10 minutes for both max and then leave us a comment on your views. If you like what you see, use the buttons after the article to tweet it or like it or share it on your favorite social site like Facebook.
There are many techniques that can be used to help with reducing the effects of stress on our bodies
and our minds. In the previous post, we talked about how to identify what is contributing to your stress,
and different ways to approach dealing with your stress. I mentioned positive self talk, which is very
important to help turn your attitude from a perspective that brings you down to a perspective which can
lift you up and empower you. Re-directing your thought pattern can take time and energy, as you are
learning a new habit and it must be practiced frequently to become a habit!
As we rush around everyday, fulfilling our obligations, it can be difficult to feel inwardly calm. As we feel
busy, fatigued, overwhelmed; we often tense our muscle, engage in the “worry thought loop”, and we
often do not take slow deep breathes.
Slow, deep breathing is important to relax us and deliver fresh oxygen to our tissues and organs aiding
in their function. This is what the Relaxation Response is about. It is the focusing of our attention on
one thing and disregarding everyday thoughts. This helps to break the train of everyday thought and the
stress response that can be associated. The relaxation response is part of meditation, prayer, yoga, Tai
chi and Qi Dong.
Meditation is the practice of sitting quietly and comfortable for a period of time, 15-20 minutes to
see benefits. It requires focusing on one thought, word or deep breath and gently eliminating all other
thoughts as they enter in. Prayer is certainly a type of meditation, and can be practiced any where quiet.
Mindfulness is the practice of concentrating on what you are doing at that moment. It involves
eliminating all other thoughts like what chores you need to do, what your grocery list is, how you are
going to get a project done at work. You can practice mindfulness when you are reading a book aloud to
a child, while engaging in a hobby, or while eating a meal. It allows you to temporarily let go of the past
Yoga, Tai Chi, and Qigong are all ancient practices from the eastern part of our world which in general,
focus on slow movement coordinated with slow deep breathing. They emphasize concentrating on the
movement and breathing while eliminating other thoughts.
These are all tools that are available for you to try. You may feel comfortable trying some and not
others. Most can be tried in your home initially. Which ever you decide to try in order to lower your
stress level , these tools can give you increased relaxation and mental clarity as well as improved focus
to help you with your stress.
When learning to change a habit or an emotional response to a situation or condition, introspection is
most important. Looking inside yourself can teach you about the feelings and triggers that drive your
responses. Many of us repress our feelings to a situation that we feel we have no control over. This
results in not understanding why we may feel overwhelmed or stressed during the course of our day. This
will then contribute to the stress response by raising blood pressure, causing an anxious state within
us, causing muscle aches and headaches, it can even trigger more hot flashes!
So what can you do? How do you start to gain control over this beast called STRESS?
Learn to know what you feel and why you feel it. Many of us are taught at an early age that we are not
supposed to feel or express anger or aggressive thoughts and we learn to repress these thoughts. Over a
life time of denial, this can lead to resentment and an underlying unease that is difficult to identify. It can
also cause us to be completely out of touch with the root our thoughts and feelings. Keeping a journal,
talking with trusted friends or a counselor can help you to get back in touch with how you are processing
There are times when you may need to take ACTION in a meaningful way. This can be as simple as
starting an exercise program, reconnection with a church and prayer, learning to meditate. Or it can
be as major as a job change, moving to a new community, severing a harmful relationship that has no
chance of changing. Working on your inner thoughts and motivations will help you to know when to
take these actions.
Learning to change negative thoughts or self talk can change your perspective on your day and life and
help you to feel more in control. Are you someone who always focuses on the worst aspects of your day
despite the many positive things that happen? Do you see things as only black or white, good or bad? Do
you personalize everything negative that happens and assume that these things occur because of you?
Learning to think in a positive way will help to eliminate this negative thought pattern and the stress
that comes with it. Write down the common negative thoughts that you tend to have during the day,
and then construct a positive version of that thought. For example you may think “I cannot do this
because it is to hard”, instead you could think “I will rise to this challenge and try”. “I don’t have enough
time” can become “I will re-organize my day and make the time”.
Learning to think positively, focusing on your inner strength and abilities, turning inwardly to examine
your thoughts and feelings and acknowledging them; are all important tools to begin controlling the
stress in your life and your health! We are here to help you with that, and please share with us your
thoughts, concerns and worries along with your successes and triumphs. As a community, we can help