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Willpower, Decisions and Habits p2

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How can you strengthen will power? What can you do to improve the brain? Is lack of willpower a character flaw? Can will power be conserved? Where can I learn more? What can I do right now to improve my willpower tomorrow?

These and other questions are answered in this 27 minute video. Get out a pen and paper and take some notes – one one side write points Anne makes and on the other side write what you are going to do to implement what she reveals.

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You can not use up your will power first thing in the morning deciding between poached eggs with toast or waffles with syrup. If you want to eat healthy, make the decision in advance and conserve your will power for later in the day. Eat right at breakfast and lunch and you have won the battle. Will power is like muscle power, when you use it regularly it becomes stronger, but hard workouts leave the will and the muscles weak and tired and vulnerable to injury and failure. Take this to heart and make some decisions in advance. Make preparations and then just follow through. In the following two videos I try to show you how I set myself up for success at breakfast and lunch time. Exercise is an important part of living and health but weight is controlled 80-90% by diet. These decisions are very important.
Please try these suggestions. Tell me about your failures and successes. Leave me questions and make criticisms of these videos. The information is good and the principles are solid. I may not say it the way that makes most sense to you. Let me know what help you need. If you want some coaching, click on my offer above. Enjoy the videos.


Anxiety during Menopause

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This is another of the 35 symptoms of Menopause.

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Anne will be having calls on various topics from time to time. Some of these topics will be free and some will cost a fee like $4.50 for an hour. You will be able to listen in on your phone and if you signed up, you will have access to the replay. If you want to be notified about these calls and when they are available, then you need to simply sign up below. You will be sent a confirmation email from Mentors at femalemenopausementors dot com. Be sure to look for it and confirm that you did actually sign up. Internet service providers are very serious about spam. They require us to be doubly sure that it was you and not someone else that signed you up to get mail from us.

Anne will be answering questions about sexuality and sexual desire during menopause, weight control, sleep and energy and other topics. If you have suggestions, leave them here as comments. Sign up below to receive a notification when her first call is available.


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Menopause and Libido

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Loss of Libido is common after Menopause. 43% of all post-menopausal women complain of decreased libido.
Why? What are the causes of low libido. Just like weight gain people want to point to HORMONES! They are to blame sometimes.
But really, hormones i.e. estrogen, testosterone, thyroid are small players in this game.
Larger issues are:

  • the quality of your relationship
  • Family Teaching
  • Cultural Beliefs
  • Psycho-social issues like – your health, if you have a partner, if you are in pain, if you have sufficient energy

Look on the navigation bar and click on membership to sign up for my gift and to see parts 2 and 3 of why libido is low during menopause and what you can do about it.


Coaching Videos Session #2

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In session one we looked at 12 areas of our lives. I had you represent the amount of light in each are graphically on a labeled circle. I showed you one from Jean in color. Now You need to choose one “Area of Focus” from the 12. Which one do you want to illuminate more. By improving the light in one, you make all the others brighter too. They are not independent, but are interdependent and interconnected. So which of the 12 have you chosen? OK, get the work sheets you downloaded last time and lets move through a Readiness for Change Assessment.

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Coaching Video #1

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This is the first coaching session of the 5 week Menopause Guide to an Active Healthy Life. You should have seen two videos from Anne and now have #1 from Bruce. This will be 3 parts as seen below. Each video is less than 5 minutes with a work sheet you will be using to complete it. Simply follow the instructions in each video and use the contact form to send us questions or comments. There is one change. I want to send you reminders and the worksheet pages via email. Every 7 days you will receive a reminder of new material and with the reminder the workbook pages you need to do the coaching assignments. Ignore the instructions to print forms from the page and instead sign up to have them mailed to you using the form at the bottom of this post.

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Menopause Guide to an Active Healthy Life #3

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This is section 3 and Video #4.   The focus of this section is planning. Effective use of your time will be helpful in accomplishing your health goals. Weight change is the desired end, but the real effort is in taking better care of yourself.  Putting your needs last or not addressing them at all leads to lost love. By that I mean loving yourself to think you are worth the time and effort. It means becoming more efficient and developing a plan that leads from what you are going to eat to a shopping list to stocking the pantry and executing your plan.

You may be very pushed for time and need to prepare meals that sort of fix themselves. In this section we will provide you with suggestions, some resources and examples. You will have to look upon this as an experiment. In this experiment, you are going to make sure you eat enough calories, the right kind of calories  – meaning the correct ratio of protein, fat and carbohydrates – prepared in a way you can eat them.

You are going to need some containers and some way to carry food to work with you each day. Begin now by watching my brief video and then working through the issues I bring up in the video. If you need my help, use the coaching tab at the top of the page and schedule some one on one time with me.

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Lets work through the issues here.

#1 – an eating plan. You need 3 meals a day. Snacks are foods you eat if you miss a meal, not extra food while watching TV or using the computer or driving. Snacks are a late 20th century phenomenon of American culture. We Americans think we are OK if we can work 50 hours a week and sustain busy, busy schedules. We equate effective business with “HEALTH”. It isn’t true but that is how we have been taught to think of it since we were born. We have observed and understood our role – health = movement, activity, busy. Take the time now to pull out your journal and write a new entry.

At the top of a new page write: What does being healthy mean to me?  Then brain storm!  Write short points like the ones below.

  • being active to old age
  • not being sick
  • not taking any medication,
  • using science to keep my mind and body strong even if I have to take some medication
  • not being afraid
  • keeping my mental faculties sharp until I die
  • dieing at what I think is old age – for me that is after age 85

So, you see what I mean here.  Then I want you to write about how you feel you are doing with being healthy as you define it.  If you look at my list above the pattern is a clear mind and sound body until I am old. I want to be independent. That is my cultural imprint. I want to be able to “work for myself” meaning make decisions, wash, dress, handle my financial affairs, and be independent until I lie down and don’t wake up one day.  That is me, I share that as an example. In your journal, decide what health means to you. Write a short letter to yourself about what health is for you.  Feel it! Don’t think it. Write what you feel. If you aren’t sure, write what scares you about not having your health. Then you can look at that and know what you think health is.

OK, ask yourself, will you create a habit of planning, shopping and preparing food that will sustain you but not fatten you. If you like me, feel health is tied up with some activity, will you then move more to build up a reserve for your elderly years. Using the brain and the body for work and social activity sustains you in later years with a reserve you can draw on and a health safety net that will allow you to function effectively even if you have degenerative problems in your bones, joints and nervous system later on. It is like building jettys and seawalls to preserve the coast. The sea hammers it relentlessly. But if it is well built, it will preserve the coast line during the life of the builders. Build bones, joints, muscles and a nervous system that will sustain you throughout your life, even if those systems get battered.

If there is one rule for you to obey, it is to eat foods in as natural a state as possible. The less a company has processed the food, the more truly nutritious it will be. Try to eat it locally grown, fresh, and organic. I like Jack LaLanne’s philosophy – eat the best you can afford but better to eat unprocessed but not organic than processed food. It will never be perfect, but you can improve slowly. First get in a habit.

Remember there are not diseases that result from not eating grain and other simple carbohydrates. Carbohydrates can be assembled inside the body from fats and proteins. The only deficiency diseases of macro nutrients are from lack of protein and fat. Fat is more calorie dense than protein so we need less volume. The fat needs to be mostly monounsaturated and a little saturated. Avoid Transfats and polyunsaturated fats. Remember there is no Cannola plant! That stands for Canadian Oil – Low Acid and is made from low acid rapeseed. Rape seed oil when low acid is edible but the unprocessed oil is slightly toxic and high acid oil is harmful to fetuses, infants and children. I would just avoid it -it is highly processed food. So is “Vegetable oil”. What is that? Soy oil, again highly processed but not as processed as the Protein from soy. In the orient soy is processed for 30 to 200 days for human consumption. Here we extract it with HEXANE. Google that and see if you want to eat food prepared with it.

OK, Recipes. Besides hiring me to help you, you can find great information in the following places:

All Recipes USDA Meal Planning Plan to eat

Here is one that provides you with lots of resources and a plan but if you click here and buy, we will be paid a fee for sending you. We have subscribed ourselves for over 2 years now.  The Diet Solution Program

From SquawkFox here is a  printable_grocery_list_template

The last thing you need is a planner to schedule meal planning, exercise, and time to sit and eat. Hopefully you have downloaded our 30 tips for weight control. One of those tips was to only eat while seated. Find time to build your reserves now, not during a crisis.

Your comments, suggests and resources are most welcome!

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Menopause Guide to an Active Healthy Life #2

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In this video I refer to my e-book available thru Amazon. It sells for .99 cents and reviews pros and cons of various diets I mention in the Video. It is intended to help you choose one that would be good for you. Just click on the orange link to go to the Amazon page to buy it. If you buy it I do make a few cents on the purchase which I use to fund this site. At the very end you can download my PDF of Healthy Tips that is intended to accompany these and the next set of Videos in Production now.

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I mention reading nutrition labels. I will show you some screen shots of nutrition labels below. The first one deals with the parts of the labels. The second with the serving size. A package may be small, but it may contain more than one serving. Read carefully to know how many calories it contains per serving and how many servings in the package.  At the end of this post, I have links to more information.

Learn to read Labels on food packages

Understand Serving Sizes

You are going to need some recipes and cook books. Each diet I reviewed in my e-Book has its own site and literature. You may want to look at those or you may want to compose a list of your own favorite recipes. You can find them all over the web. I like Mark’s Daily Apple for this boneless grilled chicken recipe.

Aromatic Whole Grilled Chicken

Then there is the “No S Diet”. A very simple plan and inexpensive book.It isn’t a diet really, it is a plan for what you will and won’t eat.

No S Diet

Get more information on Labels from the FDA Consumer Information site.

Zone Diet Recipes

Weight Watchers Recipes

Atkins Recipes

South Beach Recipes


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Menopause Guide to an Active Healthy Life – #1

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We Americans think of health as activity. We are healthy if we can “DO IT”. When we can go to work, take care of ourselves and our “stuff”, we consider ourselves healthy. That is why when we need to change to prevent problems, we don’t. We don’t like change to prevent problems.  As long as we can GO, we don’t think we need to change.

Then there is the issue of healthy eating. I see patients that are overweight who tell me they eat healthy. That is how they say it “I think I eat healthy”. Yet they are overweight. In our country so many people are obese that we think people that are overweight are “NORMAL”. Here is the thing, you need to have an ideal amount of fat and muscle and that muscle needs to be able to do some work and needs to be required to do that work regularly.

We work while seated or with a minimum of activity. Indoor walking short distances, standing and prolonged sitting is the norm for the majority. The men who pick up my garbage are all slim. Even the men over 40. They walk, lift and pull all day, every day in all kinds of weather. Most of us don’t want that job and most of us carry too great an amount of fat in our bellies and under our skin. It isn’t good for us.

Bruce and I are going to try to explain what is healthy eating. How much food should you eat? What can you do to develop new habits of awareness or some call this awareness “Mindfullness”. What are healthy choices at the supermarket? What is it that you really want?

The first video by Anne is to introduce the concept of slow change. Also to let you know that Anne is available to help you. As a part of this program you will be able to connect with Anne live through the power of internet telecommunications to discuss problems, frustrations and to hear Anne’s coaching advice. She can’t be your “Health Care Provider” or part of that team, but she can be a coach and an encourager of healthy behaviors. OK, here is Anne and Video one:

Here is Video two:

Now that you have viewed these, if you would like to view the rest of the series – there are 5 more and receive the workbook pages and also view the other  coaching videos of Bruce you need to signup below.

For the price of $5, You will receive:

  1. Access to the other 5 videos of Anne, one per week
  2. Her Work Book pages to help you create a plan to use the information effectively
  3. Access to 4 coaching Videos by Bruce who is a Coach of Healthy Behaviors and a Life Coach – one per week with supplemental written material
  4. Invitations to be on live calls with Anne and if you can’t be there, have access to the recordings
  5. Access to this will be for 5 weeks or a cost of just $1 per week.

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